How Divorce Affects Children

Children autumnDuring the emotional turmoil of a divorce, it is easy to forget how divorce affects the children. Their lives change just as comprehensively as yours when a marriage breaks down but, a child has far less control over these changes than the parents.

Most people who are involved in divorce proceedings do not go to Court about the children.  At Cotswold Family Law we encourage every parent to look for child focused solutions when they are separating and to consider carefully how they will jointly care for their children.

Working Towards a Childcare Agreement

When considering a divorce involving children, the Court will always aim to ensure the welfare of the child first of all and to mitigate the impact of how divorce affects children.  If you can reach an agreement with your partner before filing for divorce, then you'll greatly reduce the negative effects of your divorce and help all of you move on much more quickly. 

At Cotswold Family Law, we aim for and recommend shared parenting.  This does not necessarily mean that children spend equal time with each parent, rather that both parents have an equal involvement in their child’s life. 


We understand that it is not always possible for parents to agree how their children sfather and sonhould be looked after but we aim to
find a positive solution for separating families, wherever possible.  Common issues in reaching agreement about the children include:

  • Where the child will live
  • Which parent will be the child's main carer
  • When and how often the absent parent will see the child
  • Maintenance arrangements

In cases where parents cannot agree, it may be possible to address the issue through mediation.  If mediation is unsuccessful, or in cases where mediation is inappropriate, the issue may need to be decided by the Court. Read this article to find out how the court decides issues concerning children in divorce cases.

It is worth bearing in mind, however, that disputes don't just increase the stress of a divorce.  Disputes prolong divorce cases and can substantially increase divorce costs.  It is therefore in the best interest of everyone involved if you can manage to reach an agreement with your partner.

To discuss your individual circumstances, please contact us to book an appointment.

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