Children, Separation & Divorce

Effects of divorce or separation on children

At Cotswold Family Law we encourage you to look for child-focused solutions when you are separating. It is invaluable for both parents to consider carefully how you will jointly care for your children in future.

We understand that it is not always possible for parents to agree. You might have different views on how your children should be looked after and how often the absent parent will see them. In all circumstances we aim to find a positive solution for separating families to minimise the effects of divorce on children.

Making child living arrangements

In any case involving children their welfare will be the court’s paramount consideration. As far as possible the court will look to maintain the status quo. The court will look at the best way for children to maintain a relationship with both parents. Every situation is different and we work with you to get the best for you and your family. Certain complicated situations may involve different arrangements being needed.

Often parents cannot agree who should be the child’s main carer. There are often disputes over how often the children should see each parent. We will explore mediation as an option with you but ultimately, we may have to make an application to the court.

It is not in the children’s interests for one parent to deny them contact with the other. If you are concerned about the arrangements for your child or children following the breakdown of your relationship, please get in touch. If parents cannot agree about contact arrangements and mediation fails then an application to court may be necessary.

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Family Court and CAFCASS

Court cases that involve disputes over where a child will live, or reside (contested child arrangements) can be lengthy and expensive.

The court will look at a number of factors when it decides who should care for the child or children. These include the following:-

  • the child’s age
  • background
  • whether the child is at risk of suffering harm
  • the child’s wishes and feelings

The court may ask the child what their feelings are. They do this through the court’s welfare officers, who are known as CAFCASS officers. The CAFCASS officer will speak to both parents and also to the child, if the child is old enough. Once the CAFCASS officer has spoken to everyone they will prepare a report and recommend what Child Arrangements are suitable.

There are obvious disadvantages to contested court proceedings. It can be a lengthy process, it is often expensive and emotionally painful. Although any CAFCASS report is directed to be produced within 8-12 weeks, invariably it takes longer for them to complete their investigations. In the alternative, an independent social worker often produces the same report much quicker but is much more expensive.

The Judge or Magistrate are very likely to follow the CAFCASS officer’s / independent social worker’s recommendations and there will usually be a short hearing following the report. The hearing gives the opportunity for the parents to reflect on the report and reach agreement. If they can reach an agreement at this stage it removes the need for a final contested hearing.

The court can make a Child Arrangements order managing the child’s residence and that order will include arrangements for contact with the non-resident parent.